5 Ways to Kick Your Rut in the Butt


Screen Shot 2014-01-28 at 1.39.48 PMBy Lynn Forbes

Co-Founder WHOA! Network

It just happens sometimes. One day you’re more powerful than a locomotive, able to leap tall buildings in a single bound and the next you’re calling the therapist who helped you in 1984 when you caught your reflection in the Macy’s window and realized that perm was a very bad idea.

Truth is, you could be the most roll-with-it person on the planet, but even superwoman has her days (weeks and months). I myself am experiencing a little dippity in the doo-da. Perhaps it’s the pressure of the year ahead and all I’ve sworn to accomplish. Or maybe it’s about the year behind and what I didn’t. I don’t know but I do have ways to kick my rut in the butt. All of these have worked for me at one time or another. Try a few on for size and mix in some of your own. You may find yourself grabbing that cape on the floor in the corner and swinging it back across your shoulders – where it belongs.

1. Sing it, Sister!

We all have our anthems, the tunes that motivate us to go for a run, tackle that expense report, write the thank you notes. We find comfort in the songs we grew up with or we associate with significant times in our life. My list includes The Shirelles’ Mama Said, Tom Petty’s Won’t Back Down and Michael Jackson’s Don’t Stop ‘Til You Get Enough. Then there are the times I just have to get up and dance around the house like a damn fool till I feel better. Thanks Shania! Am I right?


2. Enroll in the University of Lucy


My dog Lucy is a source of inspiration about how to handle the things life throws my way. I wrote this post about lessons learned from my little girl fa few years ago and it’s as true today as it was then. Read it here.

3. Red or White


There is nothing like a glass of vino to relax and hit the attitude reset button. My tastes have changed since the high school days of Boone’s Farm Strawberry Hill (there’s even a Boone’s Farm Fan Club!). Now I enjoy full reds with undertones of shoe polish and burned steak. No, really. Of course, there are rules: Use a glass. No more than 1 1/2 (ish) glasses per night. (Midlife women are particularly vulnerable to slipping into problem drinking. Watch our interview with Ann Dowsett Johnston, the author of Drink, here). Get out of the house once in a while and connect with other women who enjoy the sister spirit and tasting good wines. Our event in Los Angeles with Wine Sisterhood is the perfect example of that. See the photos here. It was fun and it was refreshing – just what the mojo doctor ordered.

4. Cut and Color


Is there anything more uplifting than getting your hair cut and colored? When I walk out of my appointments with Cheyenne I feel like I can do anything, especially when I’ve changed things up a bit. Need some hairspiration? Pinterest to the rescue. Check out these fabulous hairstyles for women over 50.

5. Fake it ‘Til You Own It

Finally, in pursuit of your temporarily misplaced mojo, take a lesson from social psychologist Amy Cuddy. She says body language affects how others see us and may also change how we see ourselves. In other words, fake it ’til you own it. Watch her TED talk to learn the secret to power posing.


  1. Helene Cohen Bludman says:

    Love this post and your suggestions, Lynn. I’ve experienced some dippity in my doo-dah lately as well, LOL!

    • Lynn Forbes says:

      I’ve heard that from a number of people, Helen. I hope a couple of my suggestions are helpful for you. At any rate, they are fun!

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